I remember sitting up in bed and taking a deep breath the first time I read the writing of Bayo Akomolafe some years ago. He started with “The times are urgent, let us slow down” quoting an African proverb. You can see the blog I was reading here. It’s a thought provoking delight alongside a warm drink and
If you subscribe to my Freedom from Religious Trauma email, it’s now on Substack! If you’re on that list it will just appear in your inbox monthy-ish as usual – but if you’d like to subscribe, you can do that here. With every subscription there’s a code to download my eBook, The Sentimental Non-Believer, for
Religious Trauma and Perimenopause are probably not terms you thought you’d see in the same sentence. For me, they happened at the same time. Fair to say there were days I was not fun to be around. I was overwhelmed, bone tired and highly reactive. I was gaslighting myself, trying to think my
June is PRIDE month 🌈 ❤️ I’m not great at remembering things like International Day of…(there seems to be so many!), or being on theme in my social media with trending #hashtags, I wish I was better at that. But I am aware that June is PRIDE month! Pride is for celebrating and making queer love
It’s been a (another) big week in the news. How are you feeling about it all? Can you name the emotions that arise? Sad, overwhelmed, distressed, angry and powerless are words that come to mind as we think about the violence and trauma we’re seeing in our feeds alongside recipes and
Trauma stewardship means tending to yourself so traumatic events happening to other people don’t leave an imprint of trauma in your body.
What does the word resurrection mean to you?
Is it loaded or can you reclaim it? What have you come alive to?
Leaving church and / or God is often one of the most painful things we can go through.
But there is life, freedom and relief to be found on the other side.
I have come alive in so many ways. I feel free. New.
I have settled into myself.
We cycle through phases of grief and healing when we’ve experienced religious trauma. Easter brings us face to face with where we are in that cycle and if we’re paying attention, our bodies will tell us what we need next. As I’ve healed from the pain of leaving church and
We’re a week out, and if like I used to, you’re feeling heavy in anticipation of what Easter represents, you’re not alone. There’s a chapter of my ebook, Melancholy, that you can download here, that follows my journey from grief and the ache of Easter to ease and contentment. I
