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The State of Your Heart

This line, attributed to Persian Sufi poetry, gave me pause. How would you answer it? I love the impermanence of it, in this breath. It’s mindful and present. It suggests we don’t have to know the whole answer, just the thought for this moment.There is so much noise in the world right now. So much urgency and fear. The state of our heart seems like a trite or indulgent thing to attend to when there are “real” problems to be anxious about.  For those who have been shaped by faith spaces that centred end times, Armageddon, or apocalyptic pressure, and I see so many in the counselling room, this can feel especially overwhelming.

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New Look eCourse!

This introductory course is designed to broaden your understanding of religious trauma, spiritual abuse and painful experiences in high-demand church or faith settings.

What I Wish my Therapist knew about Religious Trauma includes downloadable resources, eBook “The Sentimental Non-Believer. On Loving & Leaving God” as well as the stories of others with lived experience.

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On Magical Thinking

Once upon a time in a warehouse-turned-church-auditorium not that far away, I was a teenage girl who believed in magic. The magic of a God who loved me, who was always there to give me victory over emotions or head colds and reveal his perfect will for my life. The

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Therapy is Woefully Inadequate P2

In Part 1, on my last blog, I said, because we are collectivist people living in individualist societies, therapy is woefully inadequate and, it’s what we have right now. Another way in which therapy is woefully inadequate, is in the rigid way we tend to ‘do’ therapy. I’ve been following the work

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Religious Trauma & Perimenopause

Religious Trauma and Perimenopause are probably not terms you thought you’d see in the same sentence. For me, they happened at the same time. Fair to say there were days I was not fun to be around. I was overwhelmed, bone tired and highly reactive. I was gaslighting myself, trying to think my

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Easter Melancholy

I wrote my story of leaving faith a few years ago. It’s called “The Sentimental Non-Believer.” There’s a chapter called ‘Melancholy’ and in the lead up to Easter you can download it here. I wrote ‘Melancholy’ over Easter that year as I realised I hadn’t felt the heaviness that usually

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Map Your Freedom: A Reflective Guide.

Map Your Freedom is a series of narrative exercises and thought prompts that support the beginnings of being free of the impact of harm experienced in faith spaces.

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