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What to do with regret?

Reconnecting with and rebuilding our identity helps us move through regret.

It’s a corrective experience to become who we needed then, and settle into ourselves more fully.

And, reconditioning our thinking around identity is a huge part of recovery from religious trauma.

I love working with people in counselling as they unearth and rebuild.

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On Magical Thinking

Once upon a time in a warehouse-turned-church-auditorium not that far away, I was a teenage girl who believed in magic. The magic of a God who loved me, who was always there to give me victory over emotions or head colds and reveal his perfect will for my life. The

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2024 Wrapped

This has been a huge year for the world and for many of us personally. As life on our planet becomes increasingly complex, I’m more convinced than ever that our most important skills are self-soothing and grounding. There is a lot of distress and limited capacity to ease it. I’ve continued

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Come With Me

Perhaps it’s the oxytocin making me gushy after so many hours Havening with clients recently, but I balled like a baby at the Wicked movie this week! Have you been? It was so lovely to see it with my daughter, we had the theatre to ourselves as we gasped and sobbed. This

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A Bit Floaty

We’re almost there aren’t we? That time of the year that feels ridiculous, that’s counted in days until we get to stop for a while and recover from the year that was. I’m noticing my own uptick in things to do and places to be and like Coco Chanel I’m taking off at least

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SOMA Sessions

SOMA means living body. Working somatically means working with our living bodies for grounding ourselves and living with greater ease. Working somatically also, importantly, allows us to lean towards goodness. And when we lean towards goodness, we have greater ability to cope when things get hard.  Over summer, when we often have a bit more time,

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Healing for Complex Trauma

Complicated, complex or, like the pages of a book that stick together after being dropped in the bath, repeated exposure to anything too fast, too much or too soon, can result in trauma. And trauma, in essence, is finding it unbearable to be with our big emotions, our bodies don’t

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Trauma Healing for Big T Traumas

Perhaps a little heavy for a Thursday morning, but if you’ve experienced a Big T trauma, it’s likely not far from your thoughts most mornings. And certainly the traumas of the world, as I wrote about last week, are ever present for anyone paying attention. A Big T trauma is

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Trauma Healing for Religious Trauma

What even is Religious Trauma? ▫️Is it different to other trauma?▫️Why do you talk about it so much?▫️Can I heal from this type of trauma?▫️Do I have religious trauma? These are good questions I get regularly. Religious trauma, spiritual trauma, religious abuse, spiritual rupture are all terms that people may

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Religious Trauma Survey

This is the survey I use with many of my new clients to help us both find language for their experience of religious trauma, or adverse religious experiences. You can download it here to see if it’s helpful for you. Reach out if you need to. Jane