Anger is often part of healing. But it can be complicated for those of us who grew up in church or have spent any time in circles where the Bible is inerrant. Be angry but don’t sin (Ephesians 4v26) was taught as a directive but without the tools to know
I remember as a teenager hearing a church youth leader say ‘no actually I don’t have a cold’ (snot congesting her nose and looking awful), I’m not accepting it in Jesus name.’ While this is tame in comparison to friends who were told to go back to abusive husbands and
I’m a big believer in knowledge = power. If we can understand ourselves body and soul, we can make a change, it feels good to be able find our way back to centre. I’ve found the Window of Tolerance such a helpful concept. Developed by Dr Dan Siegel it illustrates
If you’ve read my story The Sentimental Non-Believer, you’ll remember I wrote at times, about my mother. With Mother’s Day falling this last weekend, I’ve been reflecting on our relationship, especially as she has just turned 89 and her dementia has become quite pronounced, which is an adjustment for us
Joy is a disrupter, it brings connection and self-worth. We find meaning in experiences of joy. It’s such a powerful antidote to our stress, pain, anxiety, sadness. The release of dopamine and serotonin, neurotransmitters in our brain, give us the experience of joy. We can seek out this release, we
4 minute read The need to belong is so human and primal. Evolutionarily speaking, it meant life or death, we were interdependent, we needed each other for survival, food, warmth, protection. The need doesn’t go away because we live in a modern society, it’s a powerful driver of behaviour and
I posted on Monday about burnout seeming like a bit of an indulgent a term. Surely we’re just tired? Busy is normal, everyone’s just busy raising kids and working to live. Serving our callings, our careers. Caring for elderly parents. We feel lazy for resting. We value productivity over wellbeing.
4 min read If you’ve connected with me because you’ve experienced religious trauma or you’re curious about all the megachurch drama in the media at the moment, you may want to keep reading. You might be thinking, religious trauma sounds quite dramatic, I don’t really know what you mean. Trauma
I recently wrote a paper on grief and loss and, as happens when we buy a red car, we see red cars everywhere.
