A Good Friday Note
You are good on this Friday.
You are not broken.
Your heart is good, your body is good. You are loveable.
20 April 2025
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Grief, letters & balloons
Trauma work is grief work. I had a lovely, unexpected 24hrs with my daughter last week. She was in town briefly for work and the stars aligned so I could spend that time with her chatting, cooking and watching TV. We watched Love on the Spectrum (how gorgeous) and the new Bridget
15 April 2025
Holy Hurt
I joked last week on my Instagram stories that I’ve long had a therapist crush* on Canadian Psychologist, Dr Hillary McBride, whose new book, Holy Hurt is coming out soon. Hillary was my inspiration for becoming a therapist. Back in the days when she co-hosted The Liturgist’s Podcast, I was working in
15 April 2025
Living the Questions
The first time I heard the beautiful quote below was OnBeing Podcast, which was a lifeline for me, like church really, when I could no longer go. Host Krista Tippet often referred to Letters to a Young Poet by Rilke. He writes, “I want to beg you, to be patient toward all
26 March 2025
Overstimulated. Is there another way?
It’s been five years, this month, since Covid. I remember where I was when we started to hear about this virus that seemed to be spreading quickly. I was working in the humanitarian sector at the time, and my body tensed over lunch with our team in Indonesia as they told me
20 March 2025
Triggered.
Not a word I use lightly, triggered, is a state we’d rather not have to experience quite so regularly. Like landmines in a field we’re trying to cross to get to work or get through the day, triggers are sneaky. Despite being the smallest part of an explosive device, when
20 March 2025
What to do with regret?
Reconnecting with and rebuilding our identity helps us move through regret.
It’s a corrective experience to become who we needed then, and settle into ourselves more fully.
And, reconditioning our thinking around identity is a huge part of recovery from religious trauma.
I love working with people in counselling as they unearth and rebuild.
14 February 2025
On Magical Thinking
Once upon a time in a warehouse-turned-church-auditorium not that far away, I was a teenage girl who believed in magic. The magic of a God who loved me, who was always there to give me victory over emotions or head colds and reveal his perfect will for my life. The
29 January 2025
2024 Wrapped
This has been a huge year for the world and for many of us personally. As life on our planet becomes increasingly complex, I’m more convinced than ever that our most important skills are self-soothing and grounding. There is a lot of distress and limited capacity to ease it. I’ve continued
13 December 2024
