What does creating a life that supports healing from complex trauma look like?
Isn’t knowing ourselves and giving ourselves what we need selfish and indulgent?
We may not be able to move off grid and quit our jobs but there are so many ways within our control that we can come home to ourselves and live more present lives.
Knowing yourself: How does stress, distress and trauma feel in your body? Shaky, heavy, panicky, unsafe, overwhelming?
What you need when you’re triggered like that? Especially when complex layers of emotions seem to come at you out of nowhere, and don’t always make sense.
Ask yourself these questions:
Can I build up my tolerance for stillness?
What can I let go of or say no to?
What can I take off my list?
How many hours/days/weeks can I go without social media?
Can I go to the news and world events rather than them coming to me?
Can I stay present in the moment I’m in rather than trying to control the future or get drawn into shame and regret about the past?
Am I addicted to drama?
Can I tolerate boredom?
Who and what drains me?
Who and what fills me up?
Who can I stop rescuing?
What are my top 5 regulating and grounding go-tos?
Notice – bring awareness – pause – respond – choose yourself – Repeat.
Give out from that place of bring grounded.
Creating a life of healing is a practice. We practice coming back to ourselves daily.
