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Easter & a New Spirituality

We cycle through phases of grief and healing when we’ve experienced religious trauma. Easter brings us face to face with where we are in that cycle and if we’re paying attention, our bodies will tell us what we need next. As I’ve healed from the pain of leaving church and

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I can’t find peace till it burns.

We so often believe and are taught that anger is unhealthy and needs to be managed and suppressed. But anger is human and is good information. If we’re not used to feeling it, we can mistake it for rage and think we’re going too far when really we’re testing out what it could feel like to express what we need and speak up when we’ve been hurt.

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The Rhythms of Grief

My humanity pulls me toward grief, I am heartbroken at the suffering I see and am forcing myself to witness. I tend to my own trauma stewardship so I can enlarge my capacity to feel it and bear it with the global community.

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Religious Trauma & Beauty

I’ve become a beauty chaser since leaving organised religion.
I’ve realised it’s where I feel God/god/the ground of all being/the energy of every living thing.
It makes me feel held.
Part of something bigger than me.
A sunset can hold my gratitude and joy, the ocean the waves of my pain, the grass beneath my feet makes me feel grounded.
Beautiful music, gorgeous fresh produce, flowers and colour all make feel centred, rested, peaceful.
They make me smile.

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Religious Trauma & the Body.

Like all trauma, religious trauma lives in our bodies. And like all trauma, we need bodily ways to process it. When you graze your knee, your body knows how to heal. When you’ve experienced trauma, your body knows how to heal. But for anyone who has spent time in spaces

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On Nuance & Belonging

I was tidying up my Google drive recently and came across a Word doc outlining a short talk I gave at the Uniting Church women’s conference in 2018. If you’ve read my eBook, my story of leaving church and then God as I had always known God, you’ll remember me referring to this. I was stunned to be asked, as at the time it had been years since I’d been to church.

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The Body Keeps the Score & is the Key to Healing.

We heal powerfully when we can find practices and rituals that have meaning for us. When we connect with people who’ll help us carry some of the load and reflect back to us that we belong. These signal to our bodies that we can move through our pain to healing. The body keeps the score but can know relief in connection, to ourselves and our community.

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On collapsing across the line

Here’s a list of symptoms: Fatigue or illness Cynicism Despair Irritability Reduced productivity Feelings of hopelessness Exhaustion Nightmares Re-experiencing an overwhelming event Anxiety Avoidance of people or activities Persistent anger and sadness. What do you think they are describing? They could be used to identify Trauma and Burnout. They look

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Download 'Melancholy': an excerpt from "The Sentimental Non-Believer."

Melancholy is a reflection on the way Easter used to feel and how it feels now.