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Easter & a New Spirituality

We cycle through phases of grief and healing when we’ve experienced religious and spiritual trauma.Easter brings us face-to-face with where we are in that cycle and if we’re paying attention, our bodies will tell us what we need next

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Holy Hurt

I joked last week on my Instagram stories that I’ve long had a therapist crush* on Canadian Psychologist, Dr Hillary McBride, whose new book, Holy Hurt is coming out soon. Hillary was my inspiration for becoming a therapist. Back in the days when she co-hosted The Liturgist’s Podcast, I was working in

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Living the Questions

The first time I heard the beautiful quote below was OnBeing Podcast, which was a lifeline for me, like church really, when I could no longer go. Host Krista Tippet often referred to Letters to a Young Poet by Rilke. He writes, “I want to beg you, to be patient toward all

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Triggered.

Not a word I use lightly, triggered, is a state we’d rather not have to experience quite so regularly. Like landmines in a field we’re trying to cross to get to work or get through the day, triggers are sneaky. Despite being the smallest part of an explosive device, when

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What to do with regret?

Reconnecting with and rebuilding our identity helps us move through regret.

It’s a corrective experience to become who we needed then, and settle into ourselves more fully.

And, reconditioning our thinking around identity is a huge part of recovery from religious trauma.

I love working with people in counselling as they unearth and rebuild.

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On Magical Thinking

Once upon a time in a warehouse-turned-church-auditorium not that far away, I was a teenage girl who believed in magic. The magic of a God who loved me, who was always there to give me victory over emotions or head colds and reveal his perfect will for my life. The

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2024 Wrapped

This has been a huge year for the world and for many of us personally. As life on our planet becomes increasingly complex, I’m more convinced than ever that our most important skills are self-soothing and grounding. There is a lot of distress and limited capacity to ease it. I’ve continued

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Come With Me

Perhaps it’s the oxytocin making me gushy after so many hours Havening with clients recently, but I balled like a baby at the Wicked movie this week! Have you been? It was so lovely to see it with my daughter, we had the theatre to ourselves as we gasped and sobbed. This

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Religious Trauma Survey

This is the survey I use with many of my new clients to help us both find language for their experience of religious trauma, or adverse religious experiences.

You can download it here to see if it’s helpful for you. Reach out if you need to.

Jane