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I can’t find peace till it burns.

We so often believe and are taught that anger is unhealthy and needs to be managed and suppressed. But anger is human and is good information. If we’re not used to feeling it, we can mistake it for rage and think we’re going too far when really we’re testing out what it could feel like to express what we need and speak up when we’ve been hurt.

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Religious Trauma & Beauty

I’ve become a beauty chaser since leaving organised religion.
I’ve realised it’s where I feel God/god/the ground of all being/the energy of every living thing.
It makes me feel held.
Part of something bigger than me.
A sunset can hold my gratitude and joy, the ocean the waves of my pain, the grass beneath my feet makes me feel grounded.
Beautiful music, gorgeous fresh produce, flowers and colour all make feel centred, rested, peaceful.
They make me smile.

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Religious Trauma & the Body.

Like all trauma, religious trauma lives in our bodies. And like all trauma, we need bodily ways to process it. When you graze your knee, your body knows how to heal. When you’ve experienced trauma, your body knows how to heal. But for anyone who has spent time in spaces

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On Nuance & Belonging

I was tidying up my Google drive recently and came across a Word doc outlining a short talk I gave at the Uniting Church women’s conference in 2018. If you’ve read my eBook, my story of leaving church and then God as I had always known God, you’ll remember me referring to this. I was stunned to be asked, as at the time it had been years since I’d been to church.

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The Sins of the Father

10 min read There are some big, heavy themes in this post. Please come back to it later if it’s too much for you. I write to process. Often I delete or save things in draft, but the act of committing to sentences helps me figure out how I feel

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Regret and Shame

The documentaries keep coming. On cults, megachurch demise and people we may have once looked up to and admired, falling from grace. Or rather, tripping over themselves while clinging to tired old scripts and defending the indefensible. And of course, we know why this is, to admit there was wrongdoing

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Spiritual Bypassing

I remember as a teenager hearing a church youth leader say ‘no actually I don’t have a cold’ (snot congesting her nose and looking awful), I’m not accepting it in Jesus name.’ While this is tame in comparison to friends who were told to go back to abusive husbands and

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On Imagination + Curiosity

On imagination and curiosity. Staying open to the world. One of the things I miss about the faith of the first half of my life is the certainty. Sure, confident, ordered, framed. It was always possible to know what was right and wrong. I knew myself, my place in the

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Download 'Melancholy': an excerpt from "The Sentimental Non-Believer."

Melancholy is a reflection on the way Easter used to feel and how it feels now.